Monthly Archives: March 2016

Day out in London.

On Tuesday I went to London with my parents for the day, we all wrote down one thing we wanted to do and planned our day around those three things.

First we went to the British Library to see the Alice in Wonderland exhibition which celebrates the 150 year anniversary since its first publication back in 1865!

 

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Around the exhibition space there was mirrors displaying the illustrations from John Tenniel which told the story of Alice in Wonderland. They led you into the centre of the exhibition where the history of Lewis Carroll and his legendary story were displayed in all forms of art and media. I wasn’t allowed to take pictures inside the main showcase so I got some pictures of the outside area and wrote down some notes whilst inside.

I have always been fascinated by the whimsical tale of Alice’s adventures even picking the story as my art GCSE concept and writing my own short stories based on the tale. Living close to Brighton I was amazed with what inspiration Lewis Carroll found when visiting the city many years ago and this exhibition taught me things I didn’t know including how Lewis Carroll chose his pseudonym (inverted his names and translated them into Latin and then back into English) Processed with VSCO with c1 preset

It was so interesting to see how many editions of Alice there has been over the past 150 years and how the story has been changed in certain ways throughout different eras. From Walt Disney to Salvador Dali and Ralph Steadman each person has put their stamp on the narrative and it’s illustrations. As a bibliophile I forget how much of an impact the tale has made on literature and it reminds me how a small story can become monumental. Processed with VSCO with f2 preset

After leaving the exhibition I took a peak into the pop up shop and of course I had to buy a book! There was so many editions of the book to chose from, different illustrations, different covers, different publishers it was incredible. I chose to buy a bookmark and a copy of the original manuscript which was published for British Library. It is something that it hard to purchase online and it will remind of my visit that day.

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The exhibition is open until Sunday 17th April and I would urge you to go if you can and it you are a fan of the story. Admission is free and well and who doesn’t want to be transported into a fantasy world of unusual characters and magical adventures.

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After the exhibition it was time for an early dinner so we headed over to Bubba Gump Shrimp’s in Piccadilly.

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The restaurant is decorated as a tribute to the film Forrest Gump. My parents are really big fans of the film so it was on their list of places to go.

There is a few of these dotted around including one in New York and I believe there is one in Bali? I didn’t even realise this was in London until my parents told me.

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The menu is south american style cuisine with everything from fried chicken, bourbon gravy and mash to deep fried prawns and jambalaya. I chose to have the deep fried shrimp and spicy chips with coleslaw. I also had strawberry lemonade and garlic bread on the side (piggy). I love my food and this was one of the most unhealthiest meals I’ve had in a while but it was definitely worth the calories because the prawns were delicious and I enjoyed every minute of being in this restaurant. It was such a relaxed atmosphere and it was enjoyable to look around the restaurant at all the trinkets and ornaments hanging up.

I do recommend visiting especially if you know and love the film as it is such a novelty eatery.

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Downstairs from the restaurant there is a shop where you can buy t shirts, hats and even a Forrest Gump box of chocolates. I bought a glass because Jamie and I have a small collection of glasses and mugs from places we have been and things we like so I thought it would be a nice addition.

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Thanks for reading!

Gee

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My experience with coercive control.

When I heard three months ago that coercive control (controlling domestic abuse) was to be become a punishable crime I was relieved but yet angry that it had taken so long for this law to be passed.

I was 16 when I entered into my first serious relationship. I was excited to be experiencing love for the first time and with someone who I thought was truly amazing. I was in a state of perpetual bliss and thought I had the best boyfriend in the world.

Months went by and heated arguments left me tired, bruised, resulted in my phone being taken away and told I couldn’t go and see my friends or attend any parties. I had to prove to him I was at home on certain days by calling him on my house phone and I couldn’t talk to certain people if he didn’t like them. I was banned from school/college trips away and was even locked in his house on a few occasions. He would regularly break my personal belongings in his fits of rage and then shower me with gifts to apologise. There were times when I did try and fight back but it is hard when the person you are fighting with is much stronger and is also someone you love. I was being controlled and naively thought that it was because he loved me.

When I decided I wanted to leave the relationship after a year and a half he wouldn’t let me. Turning up at my college, following me home and constantly ringing me begging me to be his girlfriend again was a daily occurrence.

One night I had gone to stay at a friends house, after saying goodnight and getting into the sofa bed I was woken by a knock on the door and it was him. He had found out I was staying there and decided to turn up to convince me to take him back. She agreed to let him stay in the living room with me and to say I was angry was an understatement. All night he kept me awake telling me that we needed to talk. The hours went by and as I ignored him and tried to sleep he became more and more angry. He took the blanket I was sleeping under and repeatedly punched me in the thighs during the night for roughly five hours. I was cold and numb with pain. When he had finally fallen asleep at 7am I left her house and limped to college. I sat in the ladies toilets for hours crying my eyes out and looking down at my purple and blue bruised thighs. I spent the morning throwing up, only attended one lesson and went straight home. I was beyond exhausted.

Having to see him everyday became such a strain to deal with that reluctantly I agreed to start our relationship again. Of course it wasn’t long before the abuse started and I was a human punchbag. However he was smart, never hitting me in the face or arms and only in places where no one could see the bruises and marks. However on one occasion during a family dinner at his house he dragged me upstairs to tell me I couldn’t go out and see a friend that night. I begged him to let me go and told him I that I was going regardless and I didn’t care what he thought. As I turned to leave I felt his hand on my shoulder and then the force of his fist smashing into my face. The blood poured out of my nose and he put his hand over my mouth so his family couldn’t hear me crying from downstairs.

After 3 years of being in the relationship he decided that we shouldn’t be together any more and I agreed. I wasn’t sad or upset, a huge weight had been lifted of my shoulders and I felt free.

These are just of some of the incidents that happened to me over the years and it has taken me a long time to forgive myself and finally accept what happened wasn’t my fault. This can happen to anyone as the person I was with was very charming, a good manipulator and had everyone fooled. Unfortunately some people are not what they seem and it took me a long time to realise that.

I don’t know if anyone knew what was going on. I never spoke to friends or family about the issue as I was scared, ashamed and embarrassed. I thought going to the police wouldn’t resolve anything and as weird as it sounds I didn’t want him to be in trouble with the law.  It is hard trying to explain to a third party why you can’t escape the relationship or why you still love the person. I’m sure a couple of friends could see what was going on but it is hard to address those issues especially when you are 16, 17.

I do regret not telling anyone and I hope that he has grown up and become a better person.

If you do think you are in a coercive relationship or you know someone who is, I urge you to speak up and talk to someone. You are not alone and no woman or man should ever have to put with abuse in a relationship whether that be mental or physical.

Here are some of the signs of coercive control:

  • Demands.
  • Threats.
  • Intimidation.
  • Monitoring of time.
  • Physical abuse.
  • Taking your phone away.
  • Restriction of activities.
  • Degradation.

Click here for help or advice from the national domestic violence helpline.

Jools Drinks Review.

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Last week I was sent a selection of healthy drinks from a company called Jools. Winners of the Drinkpreneur award in 2014 as best new beverage the London based brand sells green tea drinks blended with fruit. Each drink has little bubbles made from sea kelp and filled with vitamins and nutrients.

All of the drinks contain no added sugar, are gluten free and contain no preservatives. Drinking one of these little guys means you are consuming 8 out of your 13 vitamins a day.

You can see the three flavours in the image above. Each drink comes with a cute chunky straw and the bottles are a perfect size to carry in a handbag or rucksack.

I have to honest at first I wasn’t keen on the idea of having these pearls at the bottom and it took me a while getting used to having them pop in my mouth. My favourite flavour was the lychee and apple green tea, it was so refreshing and the flavours really complimented each other.

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Jools drinks are a great and healthy alternative to some juices and waters as they contain only natural sugars and are low in calories. It is such an easy product to consume and has healthy benefits.

You can order them online or buy them from your local Waitrose.

Thanks Jools! I have really enjoyed trying this fun and exciting beverages and will definitely be purchasing the lychee flavour in the future!

Leave a comment if you healthy drinks that you have tried and tested and recommend!

Gee

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